Cheers for posting this. Hard to read but puts it all into perspective.Fuck the Glazers wrote: ↑6 months agoYeah, domestic abuse is often a feature of the clients I get, so I've had a shitload of training on it. It's not the main line of work, but certainly a feature. I have an understanding but there are others in the field that are experts.
I just imagine this as if I was supporting her - fucking hell - it'd be one where we had very close eyes on and be constantly liaising with safeguarding - especially cos we've heard actual death threats and seen evidence of physical attacks. It'd be the highest risk category. It'd be a multi agency approach aka social workers, safeguarding, police etc.
But without consent there's nothing anyone can do unless they're in immediate danger. Victims are often too scared to push it - and rightly so, cos the chance of being killed at point of leaving is high. Even a simple text from a support worker or unknown person could inflame the situation and put her at risk.
Professionals will have safety planned with her and the kid aka find a quick way out of the house, a place to hide either outside or at a friend/family members houses etc. There'll also be a risk management strategy to calm him down and defuse situations. It's one where every precaution has to be taken.
Not to hijack the topic, but it makes me think of the Suarez thing at Liverpool. I was one of those taken in by the narrative that LFC was rotten to the core and allowing Dalglish to pull his stunt and align the club with racism was evidence of that. And now here we are a decade or so later and our club is capable of precisely the same mix of tone-deafness and lack of compassion.
I know none of us here are naive enough to think they'd have risen to the morality of the situation and handled it correctly, but we simply have to expect more. Otherwise there's no fucking point. If every institution we look up to is purely governed by economic cynicism, we're absolutely lost.